Have you ever felt like your life is spinning out of control? Well, life is full of unpredictability. At the drop of a hat, disaster can strike. Everyone encounters heartbreak, illnesses, job instability, and financial crisis. Perhaps a personal situation that arises and then knocks you down.
This reminds me of a meeting I had about this very topic. I met with Jim and as I looked across the table at him, he struggled to lift his head to look at me.
I asked Jim, “Can you tell me a little about yourself?” He lifted his head slowly and said, “Bob, the whole plan I had just went up in flames”.
The company he worked for had just laid off several thousand employees and he was one of them. An engineer by trade, Jim thought he was he was going to be a lifetime employee and thought his job was secure. Jim had learned something that most employees should understand, you can be loyal to your company for numerous years, that doesn’t mean they will be loyal back to you. Jim’s working late nights finishing off projects and coming in on weekends to impress the boss had vanished with one simple hand shake as he was shown the door. Jim was still in shock as he thought he had been betrayed.
“Jim”, I asked. “What is the plan now?”
Jim replied, “I’m not sure. That’s why I came to you Coach!”
This is the time to take your life from “passenger to pilot”. You fly the plane.
“Jim, what have you always dreamed of doing?”
Jim’s energy shifted as his sister and he had talked for years about starting their custom home building company. Jim phoned his sister that night and now she was ready to hand in her notice get going on what they talked about for years.
But when you’re down and life seems like nothing is going right, remember these three things:
1. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing has meaning besides the meaning you choose to give it. It’s up to you to make each incident empowering or disempowering. And it’s up to you to find the lesson in everything.
2. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. You don’t have to suffer. It’s a choice. Nothing lasts forever, including the pain you are in. So, experience it. Live in that moment. But then move on.
3. Take it one day at a time. Live in the current moment and know that’s the only moment you need to handle. Give it your full attention. It’s your reality. And when that moment is over, move to the next moment.
Time to GCBU!
Bob Molle (Coach Bob)
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable