The best way for people to grow and develop is to identify how they most naturally think, feel, and behave. This is otherwise known as your natural talent(s) – then build on those talents to create strengths, or the ability to provide a consistent and optimal performance.
I had a recent request from a female client by the name of Jill. She asked me if she should bring her husband into her next meeting with me. I agreed, but curiously asked why she wanted to bring him along.
She responded back quite quickly by stating, “When I give him advice he never listens to me, so I’m interested how he will respond to you, coach Bob.“
When we had our next appointment her husband quietly walk into the meeting room and sat down and crossed his arms. He looked as though he was brought against his own will. I could see this was not going to be an open discussion right away. The gloves went off within seconds of the meeting as Jill accused her husband of never putting a plan together, and in her words winging everything.
Well needless to say, I had to get the fire extinguisher out before the fire got out of control!
After calming the two of them down I asked Jill’s husband a few questions?
Number one. Why he decided to come to the meeting? He calmly looked up and said, “I’ve struggled with a number of projects that I have done and I was I interested if I could learn anything new. “
I then asked him, “What is your next project? “
He explained it to me. Sounded good, I thought.
Finally, I asked who is on his team? The room when deafening still.
Jill’s husband had done all of his projects on his own and never formed a team. He realized that he had not done what so many people have struggled with before. Put a team together.
We all have some skills we are good at, conversely we are weak at other skills. Putting a good team together allows us to focus on our good skills and allows our team mates to excel on their assets.
Next time you have a major goal to get accomplished, make sure to put together a good team! You will get much further and if you take advantage of a group’s collective energy and creativity, the team can accomplish much more in less time. Individuals benefit from teamwork through mutual support and a great sense of accomplishment. Whatever our strengths, we all have something valuable to offer.
Time to GCBU!
Bob Molle (Coach Bob)
Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable